It’s that time of year – time for graduation and suicide. I doubt that there’s a connection, but suicide rates do peak in May and June. It’s now the 10th leading cause of death in our country, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. In recent days, two high-profile suicides, Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain have dominated headlines. In both cases, there were no signs or indications of problems. Also, each in their own way was attractive, highly successful, and financially secure. At this same time, young people are making that important transition to adulthood, either by moving on to college or joining the workforce. You might say that while some are beginning their adult lives, others are intentionally ending theirs. Protect yourself!
How does someone who prefers to write with humor start with such dark subject matter? To appreciate the full experience of life, you have to laugh and cry. While we mourn the losses of our peers, we also celebrate the accomplishments of our youth, and it’s not long before our tears turn to joy. That’s Life! The Caps have won the Stanley Cup will read one headline, while obituaries fill the other pages of the newspaper. Everyone’s life is filled with ups and downs. The great mystery is why would someone take their own life, especially after experiencing so many ups? I don’t have any answers; only more questions. Life goes on and a laugh is right around the corner.
There was a “song” on the radio this morning called, “Everybody’s Free (To wear Sunscreen).” It was recorded in 1997 by Australian artist, Baz Luhrmann, and was based on a hypothetical commencement speech by Chicago Tribune reporter, Mary Schmich. The words became the subject of an urban legend which claimed it was an MIT commencement speech given by author Kurt Vonnegut. This helped fuel its popularity and drove it to become a Top 10 hit in Europe, but I had never heard it until this morning, mixed in with the tragic breaking news of Anthony Bourdain. It’s a lesson on what to expect from life, and here are the lyrics:
Wear Sunscreen
If I could offer you only one tip for the future,
Sunscreen would be it
The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists
whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience…
I will dispense this advice now…
Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth
oh nevermind;
you will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded
But trust me, in 20 years you’ll look back at photos of yourself
and recall in a way you can’t grasp now how much possibility lay before
you and how fabulous you really looked…
Don’t worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as
effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum
The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that
never crossed your worried mind
the kind that blindside you at 4pm on some idle Tuesday
Do one thing everyday that scares you
Sing
Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts
don’t put up with people who are reckless with yours
Floss
Don’t waste your time on jealousy; sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes you’re behind…
the race is long, and in the end, it’s only with yourself
Remember the compliments you receive, forget the insults
if you succeed in doing this, tell me how
Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements
Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your life…
the most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives
some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don’t
Get plenty of calcium
Be kind to your knees, you’ll miss them when they’re gone
Maybe you’ll marry, maybe you won’t
maybe you’ll have children, maybe you won’t
maybe you’ll divorce at 40, maybe you’ll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding
anniversary…
what ever you do, don’t congratulate yourself too much or berate yourself either
your choices are half chance, so are everybody else’s
Enjoy your body
use it every way you can…
don’t be afraid of it, or what other people think of it
it’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever own
Dance…even if you have nowhere to do it but in your own living room
Read the directions, even if you don’t follow them
Do NOT read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly
Get to know your parents, you never know when they’ll be gone for good
Be nice to your siblings
they are the best link to your past
and the people most likely to stick with you in the future
Understand that friends come and go, but for the precious few you should hold on
Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle
because the older you get
the more you need the people you knew when you were young
Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard
live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft
Travel
Accept certain inalienable truths
prices will rise
politicians will philander
you too will get old, and when you do you’ll fantasize that when you were young
prices were reasonable
politicians were noble
and children respected their elders
Respect your elders
Don’t expect anyone else to support you
Maybe you have a trust fund
maybe you have a wealthy spouse
but you never know when either one might run out
Don’t mess too much with your hair
or by the time you’re 40, it will look 85
Be careful whose advice you buy, but
be patient with those who supply it
Advice is a form of nostalgia
dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off
painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it’s worth
But trust me on the sunscreen”
Read more: Baz Luhrmann – Everybody’s Free (to Wear Sunscreen) Lyrics | MetroLyrics
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